Resolutions and goals only take you so far. Often you just end up chasing your tail without results fast enough to maintain the motivation and momentum to continue working toward the result you are seeking. Perhaps you sweep your good intentions under the rug disappointed in yourself and blaming your lack of willpower.
The problem with many resolutions is that they focus on the negative. It is impossible to create a negative result. You can only create with forward momentum and positive results. So when you say that you will lose weight this year or quit smoking, you are indicating that you want to stop your forward momentum. The way to create change is to actually identify how you will transform your behaviors into a positive creation.
Resolutions that do a better job of indicating the desire to create something positive are still focused on the result rather than the creation. A resolution to get a new job or write a book indicate forward movement, but they are focused on the end result rather than process of creation. You have very little control over the end result. The joy of creation is how it feels to make something with your life.
What if there was a way to change your relationship with resolutions and goals?
This year, instead of focusing on the things that you want to change about yourself or setting lofty goals for your life, try picking a one word theme for the year. What flavor do you want your life to have for the next 12 months? You can actually change this throughout the year – I like to do this at the New Year and on my Birthday. You could even do it every month at the new moon if you wanted.
Think about what sort of feeling you would like the next interval of your life to be imbued with. Keep your idea to one or two words that you can easily recall in everything you do. This word will be the essence of everything you do. Whatever your goals or aspirations, you will ensure that you are doing it with your theme in mind.
My theme for 2015 is: fun creation. My goals include saving money, writing another book, marketing my business, and so much more. I plan to do all of that so long as it is fun and that I am creating positive things in my life. I want this year to be all about fun creation.
Other examples are: faith, courageous, acceptance, open, easy going, eyes wide open, comfort. When you only have one or two words (maybe three) to focus on, it is easy to create little reminders for yourself on your calendar, desk, or car dashboard. Create everything the way you want and the results will be so much sweeter.
Take a moment to really tap into what you want and why. Is there a theme that continually arises for you? Have really wanted to feel a certain way for a while? Find your word of the year and live by it.