Your horse is a master of communication. While he cannot speak multiple languages, or any spoken language for that matter, he can communicate like a horse in a genius way.
You may be thinking, well, he’s a horse so I should hope so! But, look at us silly humans. We have a different way of communicating which may seem superior. This article itself is evidence of our human ability for higher thought and creative communication through verbal language. We are able to share concepts, ideas, science, math, religion, art, and all of these human, “higher” forms of intelligence. We have gotten quite good at communicating like a thinking human.
What we have completely forgotten is how to communicate like a feeling, sensing human. We are so caught up in our heads, and so busy shoving down our emotions, that we have become somewhat disconnected from the language of life. We know that in a conversation, only seven percent of what we communicate is verbal. The rest of the conversation has to do with tone of voice and body language. Despite this, we focus on the words and the verbal language.
When was the last time you studied nonverbal communication in school? But, I bet you took languages, both your native tongue and foreign languages, for years. This emphasis on verbal language is getting amplified the more that we communicate through our devices. By text and email you lose 93% of the meaning. The phone allows you to use tone of voice, but still 55% of the meaning is lost. How incredible is that?
The horses provide us with an opportunity to reconnect to the language of life. They can teach us to become aware of the missing 93%. They can show us how to let our feelings roll through our body to express authentically in the world. The horses can hold a space where we learn to intuitively, energetically perceive information through the miraculous sensing organism that we reside within – the body.
Due to our thinking nature, we try to think and communicate like a horse when we are with them. Training techniques have been devised to mimic the horses and use their language. We approach it like we do all foreign languages, by studying what we see and applying it. Yet, that is not how life communicates. Life communicates through energy and motion; intention and intuition.
We could never speak the language of horse because we do not have horse bodies. We cannot pin our ears, swish our tails, snake our necks, tense our skin, or move on four legs. No matter how hard we try, we will never master “mare face.” We can’t sag our ears and lower lip when we are relaxed, nor can we roll our eyes backward and inside out when we yawn.
Here is the cool thing – we don’t have to! We don’t have to try to communicate like a horse to communicate with a horse. What we need to learn how to do is speak the language of life, human-style. We already have all that we need to communicate through body language – we do it without realizing it all the time. The horse helps us to become aware of what we are communicating and how it is received.
Our horses already understand this. They are actually a bit cleverer than us humans when it comes to this communication thing. You see, a horse doesn’t ever try to communicate like us. He does not suddenly become more vocal or try to mimic our rope swinging with his tail. He doesn’t attempt to use our hand gestures or do that funny head cock that we do. He communicates authentically in the moment according to how he feels and that is expressed as a series of movements throughout his body.
Meanwhile, we are prancing around pretending that we don’t feel what we do feel, looking silly trying to be more horse-like. We aren’t getting the response we want because we are not showing up authentically. We are not empowered to feel what we feel and allow that energy to flow through us and express itself in a human movement or gesture.
We don’t need to move like a horse. We need to move like a human and learn how to read the movement and energy of the horse. This is what your horse – and all life – is doing. As we learn how to do this, we will blend horse and human nonverbal communication into a conversation.
Your horse shows up like a horse – always. Yet, he does not show up with the same intensity, strength, and power as he does with his herd. While some horses display dangerous behavior around humans, for the most part, horses temper their expression with us. Our horses do big double barrel kicks at each other and rips chunks of flesh out with their teeth. They can be quite physical with each other.
For the most part, they do not do that with humans. When they do, it is mostly human error of some sort – we don’t always listen to the subtlety and respect the communication that we receive. When we choose to ignore our horses’ requests, their behavior can escalate. Yet, I have worked with horses for thirty years and have known very few horses that were truly dangerous. This is, perhaps, a topic for another day.
Keep in mind, not all horses are going to be as good at interspecies communication as others. They are each a unique expression but, the most part, our horses are smart enough to know that we are different. They recognize a need for interspecies communication. They understand that they need to temper their communication with us and seek to understand what we are communicating to them. We aren’t fooling them with our attempts to speak horse.
Learn to be more horse-like by being more authentically human. Stop trying to think like a horse – in fact, stop thinking full stop – and drop into your body to move and be moved. Explore what beautiful expression your emotions take in human form. Learn the language of life.