Would you like to communicate with your horse on a deeper level? If so, then it’s time to tune into the language of life to connect to your horse through clear interspecies communication.
Humans strongly prefer verbal and written language. We get so caught up on sharing concepts to explain our worldly experience that we forget that our words make up a very small percentage of our communicative ability. Subtle body language, posture, and vocal tone convey more meaning in a conversation than the words that we are using.
Interestingly, we are normally not consciously aware that what we are really reading in another has little to do with what they are saying and everything to do with what they are feeling. The way that we interact with the world is through emotion, feelings, energy, and movement. Yet, our culture has taught us that being emotional is not always a good thing, so we translate all of our feelings into words. Essentially, our emphasis on words has removed us from our natural way of communicating with all life.
Horses still speak the language of life and have little concern for the words that you use. What they understand is how you feel, the energy that you have, and the way that you move. Working with horses gives you the opportunity to tune back into a very natural way of communicating. Practicing how to communicate without words will allow you to understand fellow humans so much better and improve your communication skills.
All equestrians have learned the importance of body language to communicate with horses. However, what happens is that we get too hung up on the movement and forget to pay attention to the energy and feeling that drives the movement. We start to label certain movements with a verbal understanding and lose the essence of what is being communicated, how, and why.
Body language comes as a result of emotions and feelings. When a human gets frustrated, she may stamp her foot or make a growling sound. Body language and vocalization stem from the expression of experience. When a horse grows frustrated he may pin his ears or harshly swish his tail. The movement that we see conveys a meaning. What we are really learning from the horse through body language is what he is experiencing internally.
When you start to understand this, you can begin to shift the way that you communicate with your horse. Horses do not share concepts with one another. If one horse drives another away from a pile of hay, neither horse has a story about that interaction. All of the communication is happening from an energetic, feeling place.
On the other hand, how often do you try to replicate that same horse behavior for a specific reason or outcome rather than as an authentic expression of how you feel in the moment? Let me be more clear. We have observed horses’ behavior and, based on what we have seen, tried to mimic that body language for training purposes. For example, we use the driving behavior and response to get a horse to perform a specific task.
What happens when we utilize the body language without understanding the reason beneath that outward is expression is the same thing that happens when we speak to another person and only focus on the words. You are disconnecting yourself from the true meaning and expression. Without the internal feelings and energy to go with the body language, your movements are meaningless and hollow.
My husband was once in France and heard a group of teenagers singing Michael Jackson songs with perfect English. He got so excited to find someone who spoke his language that he approached them to have a conversation. It turned out that none of them spoke English – they were just really good at mimicking the sounds of the words. They did not know the meaning behind what they were saying.
When you sing along to the foreign language of Equus by mimicking their movements, you are missing the point entirely. Your horse is going to see right through that effort. With one question from your horse, he will see that you are not fluent in his language. His language is that of all life – a dance in the moment of honest and authentic expression.
If you want to communicate better with your horse, stop worrying about the specific movements that you need to make. You can never move like a horse. Instead, start focusing on how you feel in the moment and authentically express that. If you are frustrated, and authentically express it, your horse will get the picture. He understands that energy and intensity. You do not have to pin your ears or swish your tail – that foot stomp and growl is your authentic expression of frustration in the moment.
Start practicing the language of life by tuning into this moment and looking for the underlying feeling. What is your horse really saying? How can you respond through energy in motion? Dance with your horse by using the tools of intuition and intention to deepen your connection and see what emerges as a result.