Whenever you find yourself growing irritated or annoyed with the behaviors of another, you must realize that you are gazing upon a mirror. You are seeing behaviors and aspects of yourself and your past reflected in the person before you. The only reason that you take such offense to them is because you do not want to look at that aspect of yourself.
If you can come to accept this, then you can learn to integrate your subconscious stories and feelings. You can stop and see the image for what it is – a reflection of things that you would like to change in you. When you do that, you then have the power to change your experience. Though you cannot change anyone else’s behavior, you can work on it within yourself so that it is no longer a trigger for negative emotion.
Learn to see the people who push your buttons as messengers. Rather than growing irritated with them and creating conflict you can thank them for helping you to become clearer about the things that you have the power to change. You can be grateful instead of irritable. Don’t shoot the messenger for it will just create more turmoil within.
The next time someone gets under your skin reflect on why. What story are they triggering within you? Where do you recognize their behavior in yourself? Then honor that place in you by feeling it fully. You can only transform that which you are aware of. Feel it, bless it, and release it. Take a moment to be grateful for the people you meet that provide you with solutions for your own healing process.