We know about the somewhat elusive, but really enticing, unconditional love. We are all searching for it – hoping that we will find someone who will love us regardless of our behavior and the circumstances of our life together. It would be nice.
What about practicing unconditional joy? Try cultivating the feeling of joy regardless of circumstances, people, places, or things. Be joyful whether you find that unconditional love or not. Be joyful with or without the dream job. Be joyful for the sake of feeling good.
When we attach our happiness to the circumstances of life, we are asking for suffering to follow. If the circumstance is not pleasing, then we are unhappy. If the circumstance is pleasing, then we are happy BUT only as long as it doesn’t change or stop.
Don’t give away your joy to the conditions of life. Practice the feeling of joy daily so that it becomes your default emotion. Meditate on the feeling of joy. Notice when you are acting conditionally unhappy and reach for a better feeling. You have a choice about how you perceive life.
When you wake up tomorrow morning before you are swept away with the day, bask in the feeling of joy. When you find yourself throughout the day feeling off kilter, look for thoughts or actions that feel more enjoyable. Keep bringing yourself back to joy and watch how your life begins to change.